Happy f------ Valentine’s Day
February 14, 2020

A country to love but also to hate...again


I always default back to trusting goodness in the world...but 15 min after arrival, I am confronted by the conniving cheating stealing corruption in the world as I notice my computer has already been been snagged from my bag still on airport grounds. It must have happened when taking a short bus to terminal 1 to catch a domestic flight. I was still very green and tired. Welcome back to this lovely land of cheaters and scam artists and haggling and harassment and so much more. I am reminded why I never wanted to come back to this f------ land....it makes me laugh though. So typical...did I actually expect it to be different?


Maybe this lovely sadhu sitting by my side can help me find some goodness here.


As much as I hate this country right now, it’s really good to leave my own. These frequent escapes place me in the reality of the world and all it’s demons and saints. Something about experiencing life’s joys and hardships gives me peace.


I had wanted to come to India for years but after my last trip in 2006, I was done and never hoped to return to northern India yet here I am again. It is reminiscent of my first day in this country 19 years ago and again I wonder, what is there to love?
Maybe I will understand by next week but I only have one week to find love for this place. I won’t expect much....Although maybe self love or love for my divine creator will grow exponentially per my psychic.


My brother always said, “you step into shit and it turns to gold.” This may be another example of that as I actually hated this computer. It seemed defective and I wanted to replace it but saw no reason. I’m wondering, “Where is the gold?” But I must give it time.


I try to get cash and the rate is crappy and then I use the machine which declares fraud so I have to make some emergency calls to my bank and I hate this country even more.


I pay a taxi with a credit card and we walk to where they are parked. I get in and start the journey to “tree of life”
and en route they tell me there is an accident. They turn around on the 3 lane highway heading the wrong way against the traffic and I wonder how does anyone get a f------ license here. It is terrifying just watching. They turn off on a side road to escape heading against traffic on the highway.


The sky is hazy as dust floats in the air. I can feel it on my lips and tongue. Thankfully I brought some masks for CORONAVIRUS precautions-  a bit overkill but just to be safe. I put one on my face to not taste the dust on my tongue.


My desire to return to India or Nepal was completely extinguished after being intimately involved with Asian culture for 10 years. It no longer carried a bit of intrigue for me. I had learned and experienced what I needed to fulfill that karmic desire. Here I was again, and it was clear I was done. I don’t really know what I yearned for in the past- unless it was that I had this karma to finish up which brought me to this part of the world in the first place.


In the last year, I dreamt that I was strangely required to be present at a festival. I showed up and there was a crowd of Asian folks anticipating a marriage. A carriage was brought out with a woman draped in a sparkly red saree adorned with jewels to include a nose ring, bangles, and diamonds and wavy nearly kinky hair. I watched her betrothal to a man. I felt deep sadness for that woman knowing that this man would never love her and may not be faithful to her. I felt a deep ache for her future.


I awoke from the dream wondering what it was about. I sat with my curiosity, imagining it could have been a  past life and I was that girl and had karma to complete. Maybe I always wanted to go to India to finish up what I was unable to end in a different lifetime. It made sense.


Here I find myself back in this country and I loathe it as I did in 2001, but back then, after 2 months I grew to love it. I wasn’t sure that would happen this time with just 1 week. Already the stakes were higher with much greater losses.

By Darcy Thomas
Excerpts from my journal from 2001 at 27 years old
 
Chapter 1:
A Country To Love But Also To Hate
 Part of "Shit and Sugar All in One Breath" 

My plane arrived safely in India on March 12, 2001. Everything was smooth for a few hours but only while sleeping. When I awoke, the troubles began. I had a flight to the east coast to meet up with a family connection, Jane, in Bhubaneswar. Jane was a nurse who worked at Sloan Kettering. Our family friend connected us after her husband died there. Mr. Shriya, a wealthy Indian man who lost his wife to Cancer, invited Jane as his guest in India.  I joined her for the first part of my trip.

My flight to Bhubaneswar was cancelled because I did not confirm it.  My plans were unraveling at the seams. There I was in Mumbai staying in a hotel that was largely out of my price range at $50 a night.  I was hoping to spend more like $3 a night.  I was unwilling to afford the place I was staying.   Sitting outside the airport on my giant backpack, I wondered how to proceed.  Emotions clenched my throat while tears dripped from my eyes.  I hoped someone might feel sympathy for me and rescue me in my helplessness in this foreign land. 

A seemingly compassionate auto rickshaw driver approached me from his vehicle and offered to help. I was naïve and assumed he was genuinely kind. I hopped into his auto rickshaw with my pack.  We drove off in search of a more affordable hotel. Being new to India, I was not prepared for what came next.

First we visited a travel agency where I purchased a new ticket to Bhubaneswar.  I was beginning to accept the price of my hotel and requested that the driver bring me back. A friend of Mr. Shriya’s planned to meet me to give me a tour of Mumbai. My driver had another plan.  Unknown to me, he was looking for a commission.  He continued to pressure me to find a new hotel and drove me around exploring options.  I didn’t argue.  None met my standards as a newbie in this foreign land. I needed to transition slowly. These rugged hotels were too much of a dive so early in the game. 
 
I was now convinced that I needed to return to my hotel. The driver offered a guided tour of the city- anything for a rupee. He finally agreed to my endless requests and headed back to my hotel.  If I had known, I would have jumped out and found a new ride.

He drove recklessly through strange neighborhoods. Burgundy streaks dripped down his white teeth.  I feared it was blood. I was new to betel nut, a stimulant like chewing tobacco which stains your teeth vulgar shades of red.  My heart raced and something gripped at my inner organs.  
 
While winding through unknown back streets his rickshaw stalled. After a few attempts to restart it, he swung around and demanded all of my money.  Our location was desolate with no establishments nor people nearby.  I had all of my belongings.  He could do whatever he wanted to me.   Tears streamed down my face as I hoped for my savior again. I pulled out 200 rupees ($4) which was what the meter read.  His face turned crimson matching the drool from his mouth. I imagined smoke blowing out of his ears as he fumed with anger. He demanded 1000 rupees ($20-25). The average annual income in India at that time was 1500 rupees. Facing the possibility of rape, robbery, or murder, I pulled out 700 rupees and shakily handed it to him. He snatched the money from me wanting to end the battle and waved down the next passing auto rickshaw.  After a short verbal exchange between drivers, he shuffled me into the other vehicle. My new driver appeared confused.  He whipped his rickshaw around the corner immediately entering the gate of my hotel. No wonder he was so confused! We were only a block away.

I was shaken, eyes wet with tears.   The hotel attendants yelled at my new driver, but he was not the one who robbed me. That evil driver had planned his escape to avoid this trouble.  After encouraging the hotel employees to leave this poor guy alone, I resettled into my hotel and waited for Mr. Shriya’s friend to give me a guided tour.

In that moment, all I felt was an intense urge to get the fuck out of this country and never come back. My mother’s words, “You will love India, but you will also hate it,” were only partially true. What was there to love? I would understand in time.

Chapter 2:
Spirituality Wrought With Corruption
 Part of "Shit and Sugar all in One Breath"
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Being in India felt like I was the middle of a battle field or watching an old film where the characters played parts from ancient times. Natives squatted with bent knees and mixed foods with antiquated tools in short crawl spaces. Hindi and other local languages rolled off of their tongues.  I felt more like an outsider than I ever had before despite having traveled through more than 20 countries.

Locals rode by on bikes with adjoining carts interspersed with wandering cows, auto rickshaws, automobiles all heading in dense traffic together. Flies circled beggar’s rotting wounds.  Some revealed stumps for hands, arms, or legs. They waved their scarred partial limbs at me as I passed by. Soiled mothers and children with paper thin sarees pulled on my sleeve chanting, “Mommy…Milk… Baby? Milk…Baby?” There was no lack of food here but unsanitary conditions making food inedible. 

When on the train, I passed gloomy faces of adults and children scattered on the streets wrapped in blankets sleeping anywhere there was space. Locals watched me intensely, the pale foreigner wearing different dress. I gazed back thinking they would turn away, but it was not rude to stare. Soon enough, 100 white eyes were looking at me. The mere presence of their stares drained me. Christians, Sikhs, Jain, Hindus, Buddhists surrounding me were all on a spiritual path, yet corruption ran deep.

Chapter 3:
A Place Of Comfort Amidst The Chaos
 Part of "Shit and Sugar all in One Breath"
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It was March 22, 2001. I had now been in India for about 10 days. The first week was a rapid tour of Mumbai, Benaras, and Agra. Mr. Shriya funded everything as I traveled with Jane. It was a safe way to enter India but not my style. I was happy to carry on solo from Delhi. They dropped me at the bus to Dharamsala, the home of the Dalai Lama. I thought I wanted to stay with them, to be in the comfort and safety of their plan, but I had traveled enough to know I didn’t really want that. It was time to forge my own path on my limited budget. I no longer had Mr. Shriya to protect and guide me. I was free.  Despite my financial struggles, that was where I liked to be.

I arrived in Dharmsala only to find millions of visitors there for the Dalai Lama's teachings. I came to see Dr. Yeshi Dhonden, the Dalai Lama's former Tibetan physician. I read about him in the book, "In Exile from the Land of Snows." He had magical abilities to sense someone's life story and health limitations just from feeling the pulse. 
 
With all of the foreigners visiting to see the Dalai Lama, rooms were unavailable. I would need to venture out beyond Dharamsala to find accomodations.  I had heard that Dharamkot, a small town 20 minutes uphill closer to the foothills of the Himalayas, had rooms.  After the short journey up a path through the woods, I arrived in Dharamkot where I ran into Brendon. We were neighbors on the bus to Dharamsala from Delhi.  After the 8 hour ride together we felt comfortable sharing a room and a king sized bed.

The next day, I ventured down to Dharmsala to see Dr. Yeshi Dhonden.  I encountered a long line of local Indians waiting for his services. When I reached the front of the line, Dr. Yeshi Dhonden stood beside me in his maroon gown, the dress of a Tibetan monk, something he had been since the age of 5.   I felt his warmth as he cradled my hand in his own.  He reached his fingers to feel the pounding in my wrist while mumbling some Tibetan words to his assistant.  She asked me to open my mouth and stick out my tongue.  From my readings, I knew he was inspecting it for divets, ridges, spots, and discoloration. I was then requested to urinate into a cup. Holding it up to the sunlight, he investigated its appearance for bubbles which floated or sank.  I was handed a bag of small, hard, brown pellets that looked like goat poop, typical Tibetan herbs gathered from the mountains and compacted into a ball. They quickly nudged me out the door.  My problems were minuscule relative to others waiting in line.  I had hoped to apprentice with him yet he was far too busy and inaccessible.  After my appointment, I returned up the hill to my abode.  
 
Each morning I gathered at the local restaurant with Israeli's, Brits, and others from various parts of the world but rarely another American. My morning breakfast consisted of ginger pancakes or eggs scrambled with vegetables and hot water with fresh chunks of ginger. I rarely spent more than a dollar. 
 
While sitting at breakfast with my British friend Mark, we gazed across the dusty road to the gates of the Vipassana meditation center and wondered what it was like, how folks were doing in there, what sort of chaos they were experiencing if any. It was as if they were doing some mind altering drugs during the 10 day retreat. I wondered with fascination, wanting to experience it myself but also terrified having never meditated a day in my life. 
 
This one day we observed a group of foreigners, mostly Israeli’s, exiting from the center.  They joined us at our table. Israeli’s were often traveling the world after their year or 2 of military duty.  Inquisitive as I was, I asked about their amazing enlightening experiences during this silent meditation. I continued to hear how transformative it had been for each of them.  
 
With three months and no plan, I contemplated doing Vipassana now but I did not want to be in the cold of Dharamsala silently freezing for 10 days.  I opted to find a warmer locale to dive into my inner psyche.  

Rumors traveled about a beautiful hike to the snowline of the foothills of the Himalayas.  I decided to check it out.  After ascending 30 minutes from Dharamkot, I encountered a small guest house.  Four single rooms were nestled between two small mountains facing white speckled jagged peaks. Each room contained a simple cot and a window that opened to the Himalayas.  The owner was a thin tall attractive Indian man with a moustache.  I watched him sweep the common area as a few foreigners sat at the dining table under the open sky and read or wrote in a journal.  I was drawn to the tranquility being up here away from everything.

Continuing on my journey, I passed 3 chai stops selling crackers, tea, rice, dahl, omelettes, and chapati. It no longer surprised me to see such huts.  They were only reachable via paths barely 2 feet wide situated along jagged cliffs that dropped into an abyss.  The last one I visited sat across from a hidden waterfall and was called the Magic View Café.  It was open half of the year. All day long, the locals watched travelers pass by as the clouds rolled in and out of the sky.  It was a peaceful and simple existence, one Westerners would struggle to maintain.

Back in Dharamkot the next morning, I discovered Sharat Arora. He was an Indian man who had trained in Iyengar yoga by BKS himself. He lived down a small hill in a wooden cabin in Dharamkot with his German wife and children.  He offered Iyengar yoga intensives for visitors lasting 5 days. Each day involved 3 hours of yoga boot camp.  Since I had no plans other than seeing Dr. Yeshi Dhonden, I signed up with Sharat.

At the same time, I sadly bid Brendan and my other new friends goodbye and moved up to the house facing the foothills. I was reluctant to leave the comfort of my new friends, but I would only stay in fear of facing my own solitude.  

To deal with the cold up there, I bought a red blanket and a heater which looked like a toaster oven. I cozied up in my bed, turned on the heat, and opened my window to the open air facing the mountains.   I painted with watercolors and jotted down stories about my experience in India.

The one commitment I had for the next 5 days included yoga with Sharat so I hiked 30 minutes down to Dharamkot each day.  Sometimes I’d visit with my friends before attending the 3 hour yoga workshop.  However rigorous the training, it became the foundation of my future yoga practice.  
 
Our yoga room was more like a tent on a hard wooden surface with canvas hanging above and beside you.  He was loathed by many students.  It was his goal to destroy the ego.  
 

Style is mostly about the language people use to describe one’s actions. He taught by relaying the need to pound the tripod of the foot,  including the heel and ball mounds, into the ground.  I resonated with his style.   
 
He ordered us to do a specific yoga posture then sauntered around the room yelling, “Squeeze your buttocks like you have a pencil between your butt cheeks!  Tighten your quadriceps! Keeps your hips parallel!  Ground your heels and ball mounds into the ground!”  
 
Other times he showed us how to invert into a shoulder stand then would demand, “Hold it 10 minutes...uh that person came out of the position! The clock starts over!”   Ten minutes would progress to twelve then fifteen then twenty minutes.  We often were in shoulder stand well over 20 minutes waiting for everyone to hold it long enough. I gave up and started counting to 600 declaring that I had been in the position for a full 10 minutes. I refused to invert my body any longer.  
 
We stood in warrior one while he screamed, “Tighten your quadriceps!” He proceeded to punch us in the quads. If you were contracting your muscles it did not hurt. If your muscles were flaccid, it hurt like hell.  Despite the pain from his yoga boot camp, everyone felt stronger and more balanced after his sessions.  
 
 Part way through he said, “You can go and do all of those fancy yoga postures but you don’t need them. These basic poses are all you need for health and wellness! Do these for an hour and a half every day and you will be healthy!”  I found what he said to be true, although one could do his postures for 20 minutes and still find great health benefits. 
 
One participant asked Sharat what other modalities he recommended.  He replied, “You have to find what works for you! I had my days of trying everything. I did tai chi and weight lifting, but then I chose yoga. If you are looking to make a well and you dig many holes, you may never find water but if you dig one big hole, you will eventually find water.” Yoga was the hole he chose to dig.  We each had to choose our own.  

My current home in the hills of Dharamkot was peaceful Buddhist territory. It was unlike the rest of India which was dirty and chaotic. I contemplated what next. “If I spend all of my time here, I’m not seeing what I came for. I need to see the real India. It is too comfortable here.” I was ready to be challenged. I decided to head back to the chaos. 
 
The parts of India that I hated most ran through my thoughts.  I visualized beggars with missing body parts or  soiled homeless/ghetto parents using their dirty and purposely damaged children to ask for a rupee. The worst part was feeling like I had to ignore them to get away from them. Otherwise, I was coerced into giving money out of guilt which propagated the problem.  The billions of beggars were legitimately hungry needing amenities to survive, not drugs to feed their addiction which was often the case at home. This was harder to walk away from, but I couldn’t help the billion folks who needed it.  I was at a loss but I was also choosing to go back to this.  
 
I dreaded my return but was also excited to experience something different.  I felt like I was living in the comfort of Mr. Shriya again.  It was comfortable and safe but I wanted to learn from the challenges.   

Chapter 4:
The Golden Temple
 
Excerpt 3/30/01

Punjabi's were a very different breed from other Indians. The primary religion is Sikhism. A Sikh refers to any human being who believes in one immortal being. Those who are initiated have uncut hair wrapped in a turban or kesh and wear an iron or steel bracelet called a kara.  They wear cotton underpants, kachehra, and carry a sword, a kirpan, and a small wooden comb, a kanga. From what I observed, they lived joyful open lives. 
 
While vacating the tranquility found in the Buddhist home of Dharamsala, I entered the land of the Punjabi's.  En route to Amritsar, the land of the Golden Temple, a pilgrimage site for Sikhism, the weight of the familiar Indian personality and presence was lifted. I felt lightness emanating from those around me. Amidst the crowded chaos, a peacefulness was present there. I was still confronted with intense looks but instead of staring with blank fearful expressions, they returned a smile. 
 
On my bus, a Sikh with his tall turbine chatted with 2 women amidst bouts of laughter. We made eye contact and surprisingly they shared a smile. I felt refreshed and less trapped in my body.  Here I was  able to be me. In other parts of India, I felt imprisoned in my body. Laughter or smiles brought on letcherous gazes.  Hundreds of white eyes stared at me in public places never to crack a smile. It drained me.

I was taken to the Golden Temple in a bike rickshaw when I arrived in Amritsar.  The Golden Temple was located in the center of a manmade pool with a path around it.  The temple was constructed of copper and marble coated with a golden foil.  Families took religious pilgrimages here to walk around the pool of water chanting and singing and praying. Inside the temple puja was offered which was a clump of sweet dough consisting of butter, sugar and flour.  
 
There was another temple beside the main one dedicated for people to stay for free.  With 100,000 daily guests to the temple, many brought sleeping bags and camped out on the temple floor.  I joined in on the party and stayed in the area where all the foreigners resided. 
 
The making of the food was another process. As a non Sikh, praying and chanting was not something I could do all day.  I wandered to the front porch of the langan or community Sikh kitchen. A group of Sikhs were peeling pees. I joined in to help.  
 
Next I ventured inside the langan where food was being made. A Sikh with a turban stood with a spoon taller than his body and stirred a pot of dahl that spanned 5 feet diameter and about 4 feet tall.  
 
Another group of Sikhs sat on the ground rolling dough into a ball slightly smaller than a tennis ball. When finished, they threw it to the center.  Another person placed a ball onto one of the many round wooden boards. With a rolling pin in hand, he or she would roll it flat into a chapati and then throw it into a pile. Another Sikh would heat the flat dough over a fire pit then flip it until the dough was cooked on both sides. The chapati was placed into a basket to be passed out at the next dining session.  
 
Every hour, the langan opened its doors for free food.  Nearly five hundred guests filed into the dining hall seating themselves in rows on the floor.  A volunteer walked quickly by tossing each guest a metal plate. Another volunteer would walk through with a bucket pouring each guest’s plate with a ladle of dahl.  The last volunteer passed through with a basket of chapati and threw each person a piece of bread.  Every hour the process repeated and everyone was welcome.  I was grateful for this blessing of free food, yet it was hard to not feel like a pig in a corral waiting for my slop.  
 
It was a refreshing change to be in the land of the Punjabi’s. I still got many stares and requests for a photograph, but the people were smiling and joyful.  It was ok to smile back here.  That was a relief.  

Chapter 5:
Radu/Sadhu
Part of "Shit and Sugar all in One Breath"
Excerpt from 4/1/2001: INDIA

One night back in Delhi I returned from a gathering at the ashram of the hugging saint, Ama. It was about 11 pm. I ran into a man named Peter who I had met in Dharamsala. He liked to smoke, drink chai, and hang out with the locals. I sat on the sidewalk beside him needing water to take my Tibetan herbs. I ordered hot ginger from the man with the chai cart in the street. Even at this hour, there were people everywhere. It was like New York, a city that never sleeps although you might feel as though you went back in time.

While drinking my tea, a boy crawled over to me. He pulled himself with his arms and slid along on his buttocks. His thighs projected out perpendicular to his sides and his calves folded underneath them like mere bones with no meat. His feet twisted in the other direction opposite that of his calves. He wore a pair of army pants torn off at the knees. The pants were tied in knots at the bottom and shredded above from all of the wear. He wore an old blue soiled t-shirt. While approaching me, he asked, "Madam, Chai? Chai madam? Chai?" I said, "OK" and went to pay for my drink and his. He proceeded to ask me for money for new pants. I looked at him kindly with no response. As always I wanted to give, but I did not know what to say because everyone legitimately needed something.

Peter then turned my attention to an old woman begging by my side. She rubbed her saree together mumbling to me in Hindi. She was asking me for money to buy a new saree. I thought about the new clothes I throw out each year because I never wear them. These people begged for something to keep them covered. She was filthy and the saree was thin as paper. I looked at her and she returned a gaze with her dark brown sunken eyes. The whites were yellow and tired. She turned away maybe from guilt or shame about having to beg her whole life to survive.

I looked back at the boy who spoke English quite well which surprised me for a street person. He stopped begging for pants and started to converse with me. “Madam, which country?” I told him. “Madam, your name?” I asked him his name. I thought he said “Sadhu.” When I repeated it, he laughed and said, “No Madam, Radu!” He turned around and pointed to a man in an orange cloth with a bucket to collect alms and said, “Sadhu.” Then he pointed to himself and said, “Radu”. I laughed.

Of course I wanted to know his birthday. I asked him and he shook his head, “No”. I asked him again thinking he did not understand me. He shook his head again, “No”. I asked him how old he was and he said, “18”. I laughed not believing him, but then I realized I was fooled by his small stature due to not having legs. He had legs but unlike any legs you see in my country. He asked me how old I was and then a question I heard often, “Madam, you married?” I sat in silence not wanting to lie and not wanting to tell the truth. I looked at him as if I did not understand him. “Madam, you married?” I still did not respond as it might bring up a conversation I did not feel like having. “Madam, you speak English? I speak English. I speak Hindi. You crazy, Madam. You speak English?” I chuckled again. He had a bright perfect smile and a round head like the character on Mad Magazine but dark like an Indian. He had the same bowl haircut and glowing white eyes. Once again he said, “Madam, you married?” I did not answer. There was an Indian man sitting next to me who was my age. Peter had left. Radu proceeded to ask me to marry this man by my side.

I tried to find out his birthday once more. He nodded “no” once again. I surmised that he was born and abandoned never knowing his parents or the date of his birth. I wondered, Did he have abandonment issues, depression? He would if he lived in the US. Those issues were for the privileged. He was too busy trying to survive. I was amazed by this boys charm, humor, and kindness despite his lifestyle, but what did I really know about him anyways.

How easily people got around despite their physical limitations. They adjusted to what they were given. Another man with his calves chopped off walked normally on his stumps as if nothing were wrong. Talking with Radu was one of the first times I was able to have a conversation with someone from such a world. They usually did not speak any English nor I any Hindi for us to communicate.
Usually they conveyed guilt in the tourists as they tried to get a spare rupee. Why shouldn’t they. We had so much more.

Radu exuded immense joy at least on the surface. I wondered about happiness. Maybe money was not that important. Ideally we have our basic needs met like food, water, shelter, and good health. Despite what he lacked, he seemed to find enough elements of joy in life to create a smile. Where did this joy come from, I wondered. Maybe happiness came from inside, from being at peace, from accepting what one had and not expecting from others.

Chapter 6:
​Moving On

Many travelers get lost here with the wandering sadhus, lost in the spirituality. A lot of it is real but there is also a lot of bullshit. 
 
I hated not being able to trust anyone and being a woman alone in India. There were other travelers but if you didn't know them, you were still alone. It was not that I didn’t feel safe here. It was just harder than anything I had ever experienced. The constant harassment and begging was draining. No matter what, it filled me with guilt that I would carry until long after I returned home again.

I talked with some travelers who did a vippasana meditation retreat and had just finished. I decided to head there to be in total silence for ten days.  I had never meditated a day in my life.  I knew I would be challenged in a different way that I preferred at that time.  
 
As exhausting as it was outside of Dharamsala, I was glad I left  Buddhist Country because it was so easy. It would have given me an unrealistic vision of what India was like. It was not India there. It was a respite from all of the chaos which was much needed. 

I took a break in Rishikesh where I walked along the ganga to the next little town.  On my journey I passed vendors selling popcorn and chiclets, sadhus wearing bright orange gowns, women in sarees holding their childrens’ hands, and cows grazing on anything edible.  I stopped and sat on the rocky shore of the ganga and read.  It was finally quiet and peaceful. 
 
A group of boys traveling to Rishikesh for a religious vacation with their families ran up to me. First a boy with a camera asked to have "a snap".  I said, "Ok,” but it was not that simple. Suddenly a large group of 15 boys miraculously appeared.  They crowded around me squeezing themselves into a tight clump beside and nearly on top of me.  My peace was disrupted. The first boy who initially asked for a “snap” reached his arm around me and gestured for me to do the same. I ignored his request. Then he said, "Kiss please."  I was overwhelmed by the complete destruction of the peace and solitude I had just experienced.  I felt invaded in so many ways.  Sometimes I could handle being the main tourist attraction in this country, but not anymore.   All of these people appeared out of nowhere to demand more than I wanted to give.  I stood up, immature in my reaction, and stormed off feeling completely frustrated. My hatred for this country ascended to an all-time high.  I missed my home.  This was seemingly small, but I could not take it anymore.  The harassment was wearing on me.  I was constantly stared at by everyone. I rarely met someone I could talk to.